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personal stylist training — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 05:51:26 GMT

That were great tips i read your other articles too you have got really a good writing sense, your words has helped a lot. Thanks for sharing.

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BellaG — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 02:54:41 GMT

Thank you for sharing your feelings with your loyal readers!

You are showing your daughters how to be resilient and honest, how there is no shame in acknowledging life's challenges, and how to gain strength from the support of friends and family.

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neena — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 23:05:29 GMT

That is my favorite quote of all time! Stay strong, my friend. The feelings you have are OKAY! I'd be worried if you didn't feel them because you're human.

I send you hugs!

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Sophie Inzaburbs — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:40:44 GMT

Everything the other commenters have said is true.
And I really admire you for posting this.

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Rachel — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:43:47 GMT

I understand. I don't cope well when things don't go as I've planned. It can seem like it's all so unfair. I've had to struggle with some similar issues this past year with my marriage and the direction my life has taken, too.

I'm so glad you shared this. More than anything I love blog posts that are just honest like this.

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Lora — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:42:52 GMT

I also struggle with putting out my more personal stories and struggles. Even though those are the kinds of posts I want to read from others, it's still really hard to do. I'm taking baby steps in that direction. I appreciate you sharing yourself. Just because you have things to complain about--it doesn't mean that you don't love your family and your life. It's ok, and even healthy to let that stuff out sometimes.

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Headless Mom — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:33:18 GMT

Yep. This is some hard shit. Something happened around here a few days ago that is going to change a lot for us. I can't write about it-hopefully I will. As for you, Jenn is right. Grieve for what was lost. Then? Get yourself up and kick this new reality in the ass and rock it like I KNOW you can and will. I may need the same advice soon! ;-)

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Lisa — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:01:18 GMT

It is hard when you expect and dream about things going one way and suddenly you realize that everything had taken a wrong turn. I agree with Jenn that you have to give yourself permission and time to grieve for the way you wanted or thought things would go.

Keep on keeping on. You are amazing.

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Lu masmom — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:23:08 GMT

Andrea, I wrote something similar to this, this week. It is hard when you think you have your life mapped out one way and then BAM it goes another. To make it worse I am a control freak and a planner. It is hard to accept the things we can not change, but I applaud you for picking up your boot straps and doing just that.
What Jenn said is so right about grieving, I think I will use that in my own life. I have had 2 debilitating ankle surgeries this year that have changed my life. It sucks, it's hard, it's not what I planned. But I am trying my damndest to make the best of it and feel guilty when I complain.
You are strong and amazing and have been through so much and deserve this space to say what you feel. It takes some nudging from my friends sometimes to do it too...but we have to let it out right? LOL Keep going mama. I have a feeling when you turn around and look back ont his time in your life you will SMILE. xo

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PrincessJenn — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:59:49 GMT

I used a midwife when we had V, and after the all the complications we ended up having (which took us from a home birth to a stuck in bed in the hospital to a c/sec), we sat down and talked about things. And she said to me:
"You may need to grieve. Grieve the loss of how you wanted or expected things to go. Grieving is not just for when people die. I can be a natural part of letting anything go and moving on"

And that really stuck with me. Especially with everything we've been through with V. We've had to grieve for the healthy child we thought we were having and let that go. We've had to grieve for the normalcy other families have and let that go.

But first you have to give yourself permission to grieve what could have been and know that it's OK to feel that loss, before you can move forward into what is.